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Cry Baby Cry
Given
that it is estimated that more than half of all mothers can
be affected by post-natal depression – why don't they
go for treatment?
They may at first
think that it is just the “Baby Blues”. Then as
time progresses and things get worse all they know is they
are hopeless mothers and should never have fallen pregnant.
Why talk to a doctor about that?
This
chapter on post-natal depression explains the differences
between Baby Blues, Post-Natal Depression and Post-Natal Psychosis,
again in a very accessible and bullet point format. Personal
case histories where other women share their experiences are
documented in this chapter with the main issues they raise
outlined for the sufferer and her loved ones.
Things
to be aware of
1)
Different
people have different levels of functioning. If your loved
one has always been highly efficient and good at putting on
a brave face, the likelihood is that she will continue to
try. Because people appear to be coping, it doesn't mean that
they are.
2)
The
convalescent period is a lengthy one, and you need to psychologically
prepare yourself for this fact.
3)
Although
you may be suffering as a consequence, the depression is not
aimed at you, and it is not because of you, so try not to
personalise mood swings.
4)
Part
of the hesitation to come forward and offer support can be
based on the misunderstanding that the problem is marital
and hence respect for privacy should prevail. As a friend
or extended family member, try to clarify this point rather
than remain distant because of false assumptions.
5)
Assistance
in very practical ways, will ease some of the stresses of
daily living. This applies to friends and extended family
members as well as partners.
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